{"id":23097,"date":"2016-10-25T18:46:33","date_gmt":"2016-10-25T15:46:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/politeknik.org.tr\/\/?p=23097"},"modified":"2019-01-28T20:40:23","modified_gmt":"2019-01-28T17:40:23","slug":"plaza-yasaminda-kadin-dusmani-erkeklerle-varolmaya-calismanin-dayanilmaz-agirligi-femihat-catlakzemin-com","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/eonmeet.com\/pol\/plaza-yasaminda-kadin-dusmani-erkeklerle-varolmaya-calismanin-dayanilmaz-agirligi-femihat-catlakzemin-com\/","title":{"rendered":"Plaza ya\u015fam\u0131nda kad\u0131n d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131 erkeklerle varolmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fman\u0131n dayan\u0131lmaz a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131\u011f\u0131 &#8211; Femihat (catlakzemin.com)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>\u0130\u015fyerindeki (beyaz yakal\u0131 plaza ortam\u0131) pasif agresif ya da do\u011frudan kad\u0131n d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131 s\u00f6ylemlere kar\u015f\u0131 nas\u0131l bir tutum sergilemeliyim? Mesela topuklu giyen kad\u0131na \u201cValla yeri titretiyorsunuz, \u00fczerinde y\u00fcr\u00fcyemedi\u011finizi kabul edin i\u015fte,\u201d ya da \u201cEvlenmek isteyen kad\u0131nlar\u0131n tek derdi para oluyor, bo\u015fan\u0131p her \u015feye konmak heveslisi oluyorlar,\u201d ya da sosyal medyada makyajl\u0131-makyajs\u0131z kad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00f6nce-sonra videolar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6sterip \u201cT\u00fcm kad\u0131nlar evlenmeden \u00f6nce sonra ha ha ha,\u201d diye post atmalar\u0131 ya da k\u0131yafet, sa\u00e7, makyaj gibi konularda kad\u0131na ne yak\u0131\u015f\u0131r dahil t\u00fcm mansplaining durumlar\u0131. Laf edince \u201cSiz de \u00e7ok al\u0131ngans\u0131n\u0131z,\u201d \u201cKad\u0131nlar da \u00e7ok duygusal i\u015fte hemen her \u015feye k\u0131z\u0131yorlar,\u201d \u201cAh pardon tabi ya siz feministtiniz de\u011fil mi?\u201d gibi cevaplar al\u0131yorum. Ne yapmal\u0131y\u0131m?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Sevgili beyaz yaka,<\/p>\n<p>\u00d6ncelikle bana yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131n i\u00e7in \u00e7ok te\u015fekk\u00fcr ederim. Anlatt\u0131klar\u0131n bana hi\u00e7 yabanc\u0131 de\u011fil. Eminim okuyacak olan pek \u00e7ok kad\u0131na da tan\u0131d\u0131k gelecektir. Bu t\u00fcr deneyimleri payla\u015fman\u0131n, birbirimize ses olabilmek ad\u0131na \u00e7ok m\u00fchim oldu\u011funu ve ba\u015fka kad\u0131nlara da yard\u0131m\u0131 olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum.<\/p>\n<p>\u0130\u015f hayat\u0131m\u0131zdaki, kad\u0131n d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma arkada\u015f\u0131, patron ve m\u00fc\u015fteriler bizi en zorlayan kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmalar oluyor de\u011fil mi? Sonu\u00e7ta ekme\u011fimizin pe\u015findeyiz nitekim. Eme\u011fimizin zebanisinin patriyarka olmas\u0131 da hi\u00e7 \u015fa\u015f\u0131rt\u0131c\u0131 de\u011fil\u2026<br \/>\nErkeklerin, \u00f6zellikle i\u015f hayat\u0131nda birlikte \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 kad\u0131nlarla anlatt\u0131\u011f\u0131n \u015fekilde ili\u015fkilenmesinin ard\u0131nda derin \u00f6zg\u00fcven eksikli\u011fi ve performans kayg\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmekle birlikte, vaktimi onlarla empati kurarak harcamak istemiyorum ve hemen meselemize d\u00f6n\u00fcyorum.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/tokat.png\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-23098\" src=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/tokat.png\" alt=\"tokat\" width=\"616\" height=\"431\" srcset=\"https:\/\/eonmeet.com\/pol\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/tokat.png 400w, https:\/\/eonmeet.com\/pol\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/tokat-300x210.png 300w, https:\/\/eonmeet.com\/pol\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/tokat-150x105.png 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 616px) 100vw, 616px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Mektubunda bahsetti\u011fin ki\u015fiyle, i\u015f sebebiyle mecburi bir ili\u015fkin oldu\u011funu ve bu sebeple onunla ileti\u015fimi kesmenin veya s\u0131n\u0131rland\u0131rman\u0131n pek m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anl\u0131yorum. Bu durumda odak noktam\u0131z, b\u00f6ylesi bir insanla g\u00fcn\u00fcn minimum 8 saatini ge\u00e7irirken ruh ve sinir sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 nas\u0131l koruyabiliriz olmal\u0131, de\u011fil mi?<\/p>\n<p>\u015eimdi elimizde neler var bir bakal\u0131m: bir adet kendini \u015fakac\u0131 zanneden erkek ve i\u00e7inden kad\u0131n d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131 c\u00fcmleler d\u00f6k\u00fclen onun erkek a\u011fz\u0131 ve son olarak da elinin tersi\u2026 \u00d6nce ideal mesafemizi kollamakla ba\u015flayal\u0131m. Elimizle konu ki\u015fisinin a\u011fz\u0131 aras\u0131nda minimum 30 cm uzakl\u0131k olmas\u0131na dikkat edelim. Gerekli mesafeyi ayarlad\u0131ktan sonra, do\u011fru an\u0131 bekleyelim. Erkek ki\u015finin a\u011fz\u0131ndan kad\u0131n d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131 c\u00fcmleler d\u00f6k\u00fclmeye ba\u015flar ba\u015flamaz, elimizin tersini 30 cm uzakl\u0131ktan olabildi\u011fince kuvvetli bir ivmeyle a\u011fz\u0131na indirelim. Derin bir oh \u00e7ekelim ve masam\u0131za geri d\u00f6nelim.<\/p>\n<p>Elbette ki latife ediyorum\u2026 Her ne kadar benim i\u00e7imden zaman zaman ge\u00e7en bu olsa da, asla uygulamayaca\u011f\u0131m bir y\u00f6ntem oldu\u011funun alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izeyim.<\/p>\n<p>\u015eakay\u0131 bir kenara b\u0131rak\u0131rsak, bu ki\u015fiye yollad\u0131\u011f\u0131 maillerin i\u00e7erikleri \u00fczerinden cevap vermeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fman\u0131n \u00e7o\u011funlukla nafile bir \u00e7aba olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorum. Zira, bazen ger\u00e7ekten bu erkeklere, bu s\u00f6ylediklerinin taciz oldu\u011funu ve neden s\u00f6ylenemez oldu\u011funu anlatmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak deveye hendek atlatmaktan daha zor. O nedenle daha pratik, g\u00fcn\u00fc ve akl\u0131 selimimizi kurtaran y\u00f6ntemlere ba\u015fvurmay\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebiliriz. Mesela bu ki\u015fi, bahsetti\u011fin t\u00fcrde videolar yollad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, ya da kad\u0131nlara \u015fu yak\u0131\u015f\u0131r bu yak\u0131\u015fmaz gibi a\u00e7\u0131klamalar yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, i\u015f yerinde bu tarz konu\u015fmalar\u0131 hi\u00e7 de profesyonel bulmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, onunla sadece i\u015f konulu meseleleri konu\u015fabilece\u011fini, bunun d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda bir diyalog kurmak istemedi\u011fini en haval\u0131 ve cool halinle s\u00f6ylemen nas\u0131l olurdu acaba?<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/1.jpg\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-23099\" src=\"\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/1.jpg\" alt=\"1\" width=\"616\" height=\"451\" srcset=\"https:\/\/eonmeet.com\/pol\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/1.jpg 500w, https:\/\/eonmeet.com\/pol\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/1-300x220.jpg 300w, https:\/\/eonmeet.com\/pol\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/10\/1-150x110.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 616px) 100vw, 616px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Ayna kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda g\u00f6zlerini s\u00fcz, a\u011fz\u0131n\u0131 b\u00fcz ve tekrarla; \u201cBu laflar beni y\u0131ld\u0131ramaz!\u201d Bazen tek ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z olan bir adet\u00a0resting bitch face<strong>.*<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Can\u0131m takip\u00e7ilerim, siz ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorsunuz bu konuda? \u00d6nerilerinizi ve deneyimlerinizi payla\u015fmak isterseniz, a\u015fa\u011f\u0131ya yorum b\u0131rakmaktan l\u00fctfen \u00e7ekinmeyin!<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 10pt;\"><strong>*resting bitch face<\/strong>,\u00a0herhangi bir duygu durumunda olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 halde, k\u0131zg\u0131nm\u0131\u015f gibi g\u00f6z\u00fcken y\u00fcz ifadesine sahip olma hali. Tam kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 olmasa da \u201cbo\u015f bak\u0131\u015f\u0131mdaki \u015firretlik\u201d gibi bir \u015fekilde terc\u00fcme edebiliriz belki<\/span>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"\u0130\u015fyerindeki (beyaz yakal\u0131 plaza ortam\u0131) pasif agresif ya da do\u011frudan kad\u0131n d\u00fc\u015fman\u0131&hellip;\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":40571,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4689],"tags":[1276,3317,2408,1823,3316],"class_list":{"0":"post-23097","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-secki","8":"tag-beyaz-yaka","9":"tag-beyaz-yakali-kadin","10":"tag-beyaz-yakalilar","11":"tag-calisma-yasami","12":"tag-calisma-yasaminda-kadinlar"},"acf":[],"amp_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/eonmeet.com\/pol\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23097","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/eonmeet.com\/pol\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/eonmeet.com\/pol\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eonmeet.com\/pol\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eonmeet.com\/pol\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=23097"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/eonmeet.com\/pol\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23097\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eonmeet.com\/pol\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/40571"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/eonmeet.com\/pol\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=23097"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eonmeet.com\/pol\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=23097"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eonmeet.com\/pol\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=23097"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}